The Quiet Challenges of Parenting Kids in Their 20s

Parenting kids in their 20s is hard in a way no one really prepares you for.

One of my kids is facing some really big life challenges right now. And if I’m being honest, I feel like I’m getting it wrong. On the phone especially. We start talking about what’s going on, and by the end of the conversation I know he feels grilled… even though my intention is just to help.

I’m constantly trying to figure out the right cadence.

How often do I check in?

How much do I ask?

How deep do we go?

How do I stay curious without sounding judgmental… supportive without smothering… present without pushing?

It’s a delicate balance. And some days it feels like there is no right way. Just a lot of internal conversations, a lot of restraint, and a lot of love behind every word I choose… and the ones I don’t.